transparent open-book relationships

Maybe what I’ve been thinking about transparent open-book relationships hasn’t been so off-base after all (!) Here’s an excerpt from an article by Scott Larson::

Transparency and vulnerability are not the same. My friend whose sexual sin was recently exposed was part of two intense accountability groups. And people who know him would describe him as a very transparent person. But transparency?which can easily be used as a manipulative ploy?isn?t vulnerability. If I tell you something deep and personal about myself, you may conclude that I?m an open book and respect me all the more for it. But I?m still in charge and directing the process.

That?s different from vulnerability, which puts someone else in the driver?s seat, giving them access and permission to delve into every area of our lives. Proverbs 27:6 says, ?Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.? This is where true accountability begins. Of course, if someone wants to keep secrets, no amount of supposed accountability can change that.

You may also like...