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Sam-- - 02:16pm Jan 13, 2000 (#1 of 5)
Thank you very much for responding. My heart goes out to you in a big way.
You say, "I have had numerous years of counseling", your husband needs the counseling to learn how to meet your needs and have fun doing it. You both would enjoy life a lot more.
I know how you feel. I'm the opposite of your husband. I love the be affectionate and talk to women. For more then 22 years every time my wife sits next to me I try to have my hand around her hugging her. I enjoy it. I wish I could marry 10 women and spend all my time just pleasing them. That is fun to me to see happy women, especially when I make them happy.
Email me and I can give you tips on how to turn on your
husband and wake him up to the fun he has been missing out on. Life is
too short to miss out on all the fun.
jay-- - 02:48pm Jan 13, 2000 (#2 of 5)
You have brought up a conflict that has also plagued my wife and I in the past and sometimes now. We have been married for 7 1/2 years and have argued more over this issue than just about any other issue in our marriage. In our relationship, I (male) am the one with the higher sex drive. I must say though that within the past year to year and a half, our relationship in this area has greatly improved for the both of us. Our weapon has been:
vwb-- - 07:17am Jan 14, 2000 (#3 of 5)
I, too have this same problem in my marriage. I
have a sex drive and my wife does not have one at all. This has caused
some serious repercussions in my life. I need to feel that I am accepted
and appreciated. I know my wife loves me and I we have a good relationship,
except for intimacy. She does want to be cuddled, kissed or anything, at
least not much. I tried to hold her the other day and she just stood there
with her arms by her side as if to say "are you done?" That is my interpretation
not her words. But it did not make me feel very good. I am not real secure
in this area of my life anyway andthis is really undermining my self confidence
and my role. There is a lot more to this stroy but I dont want to share
with the world here.
Blest.1 - 06:46pm Jan 15, 2000 (#4 of 5)
Sex drive is stimulated by testosterone... the male hormone in both men and women.
If you don't have enough (discovered through a blood test), your family doctor can give you shots to boost your level and make you "normal" again. Many doctors don't want to give the shots to men, because high testosterone causes prostate cancer, for which there's little treatment.
Sex drive can also be boosted with Viagra pill in men.
Intimacy is another factor. Men who are impotent or have
low testosterone may feel defeated in their attempts at sex, so they may
"seem" disinterested with you, leaving you to think that they're having
an affair. Try to be sympathetic with him. Go to the doctor together and
ask the Dr. for suggestions toward a more satisfying sexual experience
for the both of you, YOU WON'T BE SORRY.
clyd-- - 05:36pm Jan 25, 2000 (#5 of 5)
Sam--, Try reading with your wife, taking turns, The Song of Solomon.
Blest.1, Viagra does not increase sexual drive or desire
- Viaga does allow for improved performance by relaxing blood vessels and
allows the blood to flow into the penis when there is an arousal, either
physically touching, or visual. If there is no arrousal there is no erection.